Yes, you are absolutely right. I have noticed this in my in-laws. Firstly, i thought it was the husband (the elder scape goated child) but soon realised there was an younger Golden Child and Enabler (the father and relatives) and the grandiose narc (their mother). The whole family showed similar traits even not only in their actions but words they spoke, their behaviour, their everything. And, since i didn't worship them even for a moment, i was the wrong match in the family. But again they would not completely discard me, coz they loved to watch me in pain. The whole family dynamics is corrupted and hazardous. Good that I walked out and proud that i did that with full grace.